Behaving the way men behave is neither a sign of success or liberation. If anything it reinforces the superiority of patriarchy as the gold standard to be emulated. Being a gentlewoman and be a feminine, obedient wife are traits that are not manly, and therefore desirable to men. Men are not interested in what other men do.
They are interested in what only women can do.
As avid followers of the evolving ideas of traditional marriage, we at The Stepford Wives Organization are constantly scouring the internet and printed book matter for ideas and new information.
We have mentioned the polygamous FLDS (Fundamental Latter Day Saints) group, purely out of interest for their anachronistic ideas of traditional marriage and their views of the man as the head-of-the-household. After all, our favorite “bible” of marriage was written by a Mormon.
Now to be clear, none of us at the organization support polygamy, and we certainly do NOT condone underage marriage or child brides in ANY form. From a purely historical historical however, legal marriageable age in 13th century England was 12 yrs old, without the consent of parents! Up till the 18th century, girls at 13 yrs old married without the consent of their parents. Girls in the American colonies married as young as 9 yrs old. So whether you agree with it or not (we don’t), legal standards are a fluid concept that keeps fluctuating with the times.
Here is a wonderful idea from the FLDS group:
If somebody says, ‘You look pretty today,’ you’re to say, ‘Well, it’s because of my husband,’ or ‘It’s because I have such a wonderful father.’ ”
All glory, she says, must be passed on to the priesthood head, or the male with the highest level of religious authority in a woman’s family.
We at The Stepford Wives Organization are delighted to give all credit to our men, even in instances where we were responsible for the praise. We see this as an additional dimension in supporting our men and placing them in a positive light. Because at the Stepford Wives Organization, we have a favorite saying: “in front of every successful woman should be a man!.“
There are two types of people in this world: those who cheer for you and are happy when you’ve finally made it, and those who stew on the sidelines, pray for your failure and dance a schadenfreude jig when you go down in flames. That’s why supermarket checkout counter glossies and tabloids were invented in the first place. Everyday people slog through the day with mediocre lives while celebrities and tv personalities live it up to the hilt, their every move, partner, acquisition, success, appearance are captured, celebrated, photographed, and written up.
But oh what a delight and pure joy when we find their marriages torn asunder, their weight gained, their plastic surgery gone wrong…a little celebratory Roman candle somewhere inside us goes off. At least we can say: we’re not alone in our misery.
And that’s basically the reception the trope of the Stepford Wives have received since the debut of Bryan Forbes’s movie based on Ira Levin’s satire _The Stepford Wives_. “Nobody can possibly be that perfect! Somewhere, somehow, THERE MUST BE A FLAW! THERE MUST BE A DIRTY SECRET!” Otherwise how can we bear to live with our lackluster, ordinary, spotty life?
That’s where Investigation Discovery’s _Secret Lives of the Stepford Wives_ come in. Each 30 minute episode is based on a true crime story of a spotless marriage gone bad. What opens as a picture-perfect marriage of a upwardly mobile couple reveals flaws before the first commercial break. A “Stepford Wife” who is a domestic goddess eventually succumbs to madness, infidelity, financial crisis, stress, and/or an over-controlling husband. One of the two perishes by the end of each installation, living up to the show’s slogan “Perfect Life, Perfect Wife, Perfect Knife.”
Basically it’s a spinoff of Investigation Discovery’s Deadly Women tv series that first aired in 2005 and then resumed in 2008. Think of The Secret Lives of the Stepford Wives as Wives with Knives(another ID series) with cupcakes and sprinkles.
If you have to watch one episode, we recommend _Stay-At-Home Murder_ (Season 1: Episode 3). It has all the classic elements, foibles, and issues of being a true Stepford Wife: a controlling husband, a huge workload at home, keeping up appearances, cleanliness, perfection, control, sex and stress. It is the story of Houston’s hottest homemaker Susan Wright, and how things begin to fall apart. We didn’t find the series entertaining, mostly because we can bear to see things go wrong. A misstep here and there is okay, but we take no schadenfreude pleasure in seeing one of our kind go to pieces.
This doesn’t mean we battle these issues every day, but they do come up. And when they do, how we deal with them and how we make the most of the most of those pressures is why The Stepford Wives Organization and our website and this blog exists!
And yes, the creators of _The Secret Lives of the Stepford Wives_ have contacted us when they were developing the series. We declined, because our husbands said they didn’t want us or our families in the spotlight.
Look. We at the Stepford Wives Organization never said we were perfect. Our husbands write the rules. We merely live by them. It’s a blueprint, a guide. We aim for perfection in homemaking and providing comfort to our men, and when we fall short, we go back the next day and try to give more and get it right. Otherwise, we’re pretty ordinary ourselves.
I was sitting at the local Motor Vehicles Department room waiting for my number to be called. A DMV worker walked by and greeted me.
Then she said “Hey! What are you reading there? Fifty Shades of Grey?”
She gave me a nudge and a salacious wink.
I raised my eyebrows, held up the book cover and smiled. It was Anna Sofia Botkin’s and Elizabeth Botkin’s So Much More.
Read more about the Visionary Daughters here at The Visionary Daughters Website
Swedish photographer David Mangusson is coming out with a photo book called Purity. In the photo essays, he captures portraits of fathers and daughters about to attend Christian Purity Balls, where daughters promise to stay virgins, and their dads take a vow to protect their chastity. This sounds perfectly normal to us here at the Stepford Wives Organization. We agree with Mr. Magnusson’s statement:
In Purity I wanted to create portraits so beautiful that the girls and their fathers could be proud of the pictures in the same way they are proud of their decisions – while someone from a different background might see an entirely different story in the very same photographs.
What one chooses to “see” in these pictures says more about the viewer’s state of mind than it does the actual situation at hand. In today’s salacious society and their insatiable appetite for scandal, the tendency is to read imaginary worst-case scenarios into otherwise innocuous images. It’s the same with TLC-based reality shows involving children. Reasonable moms will see Dance Moms as unnecessary pushiness via competitiveness, parents will see adorable kids being maneuvered in Toddlers and Tiaras, and folks who have their minds in the gutter will protest the dangers of all these programs in how they entice child stalkers.
In Christian Purity Balls, we simply see a father-daughter relationship in a correct, albeit anachronistic form.
“It’s the father’s way of saying, ‘until she marries, he will be the (only) man in her life.’” Later on a father says to his daughter: “You are married to the Lord and your father is your boyfriend.”
We see nothing creepy or “Freudian” about this. Modern liberal society has invested entirely too much of its consciousness in the therapy-mad Jewish culture of psychoanalysis. Forming a lifelong bond with one’s father is natural for us Stepford Women. With purity balls, our husbands inherit not only our covenant to chastity, but also our sound, close relationships with our fathers. If you love your father as the only man in your life; the day you tie the know, you will equally love, praise, and worship the new man in your life.
And that, gets the Stepford seal of approval!
David Magnusson’s Purity Page from his website: David Magnusson: Purity
ABC Nightline Prime: Daughters Commit to Live Pure Lives at ‘Purity Balls’
In the article, Mona Charen says, “Millions of women have taken feminist advice and it’s led to unparalleled misery.”
We couldn’t agree more. Look at the tempestuous married life of the unhappy housewife Betty Friedan of the Feminine Mystique and compare it to happy 67 year marriage of Fascinating Womanhood author Helen Andelin.
When my sister Carolyn went through all her Women’s Studies courses in college, she took it all in with an open mind and without judgment. Once she came out into the real world and found out that most women couldn’t have it out, it was time to throw in the towel and return to the kitchen. As we always say at the Stepford Wives Organization: “If you can’t do two things in mediocrity, it’s better to do one thing well!”
To Read the Time Magazine Article, click here Conservative Women Propose A Solution To Income Inequality
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French actress / filmmaker Eleonore Pourriat makes a misandric 9 minute satire about what the world looks like when gender roles are reversed. No discussion about traditional male / female roles can be addressed without discussing gender studies – a subject in universities once called Women Studies.
Even though Pourriat calls this play of inversion humor and derision, the unfortunate truth is that the modern women and young girls and increasingly moving in the direction of traditional masculine behavior. Of course, the world isn’t going to come to an end if they reach their goals and begin acting and behaving increasingly like brusque, callous men (as if ALL men behaved that way!), but it would take away from the fascination of womanhood and femininity.
So the Stepford Wives Organization sees this video not as much as a social critique, but more a celebration of male behavior. When women behave this way, it’s grotesque and a distortion of nature, that’s why it has always belonged to the realm of manhood. A little sexism – or in our case, a lot of sexism – is good for a Stepford woman’s soul and well-being. Sexism isn’t as bad as feminists make it out to be; it’s an essential, complimentary half to fascinating womanhood. So men should continue doing these things, and we should continue doing what we do best: being women! Because the alternative, would be a world filled with angry, hateful, foul-mouthed wo-men.
Happy St. Patty’s Day: Guinness Stew Recipe with cabbage & traditional white soda bread ( gluten OR gluten free)March 17th, 2014
Happy St. Patrick’s Day! You may consider trying out this delicious classic Guinness Beer beef stew. Don’t worry, the alcohol is evaporated and the Guinness stout flavor is mild and faint, but oh what a unique taste it is! Try it with some traditional Irish soda bread (recipe and instructions below) or Gluten Free Irish Soda Bread as a great meal for the last of the cold winter days!
There are a variety of Guinness Stouts. The bottled “Guinness Extra Stout” is the long time import into America, so we like using that. However, the newer canned, draught versions approximate the smoother, draught Guinness Stout you can drink in many an Irish pub in Dublin, just down the road from the Guinness brewery.
Stepford Cooking Tip: Use a leave-in oven thermometer for all your cooking needs. Your oven’s temperature knob is NOT your actual oven temperature!
Beef and Guinness Stew ( from Irish Central).
We recommend adding cabbage to give it the multi-dimensional taste that cabbage so often introduces in stews.
2 tablespoons canola oil, divided
1 tablespoon butter, divided
1/4 cup all-purpose flour
2 pounds boneless chuck roast, trimmed and cut into 1-inch cubes
1 teaspoon salt, divided
5 cups chopped onion (about 3 onions)
1 tablespoon tomato paste
4 cups fat-free, less-sodium beef broth
1 (11.2-ounce) bottle Guinness Draught
1 tablespoon raisins
1 teaspoon caraway seeds
1/2 teaspoon black pepper
1 1/2 cups (1/2-inch-thick) diagonal slices carrot (about 8 ounces)
1 1/2 cups (1/2-inch-thick) diagonal slices parsnip (about 8 ounces)
1 cup (1/2-inch) cubed peeled turnip (about 8 ounces)
2 tablespoons finely chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley
Optional: 1/2 head of cabbage, shredded
1. Heat 1 tablespoon oil in a Dutch oven over medium-high heat. Add 1 1/2 teaspoons butter to pan.
2. Place flour in a shallow dish. Sprinkle beef with 1/2 teaspoon salt; dredge beef in flour.
3. Add half of beef to pan; cook 5 minutes, turning to brown on all sides. Remove beef from pan with a slotted spoon.
4. Repeat procedure with remaining 1 tablespoon oil, 1 1/2 teaspoons butter, and beef.
5. Add onion to pan; cook 5 minutes or until tender, stirring occasionally.
6. Stir in tomato paste; cook 1 minute, stirring frequently.
7. Stir in broth and beer, scraping pan to loosen browned bits. Return meat to pan.
8. Stir in remaining 1/2 teaspoon salt, raisins, caraway seeds, and pepper; bring to a boil.
9. Cover, reduce heat, and simmer 1 hour, stirring occasionally.
10. Uncover and bring to a boil. Cook 50 minutes, stirring occasionally. Add carrot, parsnip, and turnip.
10. Optional: Add cabbage
11. Cover, reduce heat to low, and simmer 30 minutes, stirring occasionally.
12. Uncover and bring to a boil; cook 10 minutes or until vegetables are tender. Sprinkle with parsley.
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White Soda Bread
( Soda Bread recipe from Epicurious )
3 1/2 cups all purpose white flour
2 tablespoons caraway seeds (optional)
1 teaspoon baking-soda
3/4 teaspoon salt
1 1/2 cups (about) buttermilk
Preheat oven to 425°F. Lightly flour baking sheet. Mix flour, caraway seeds, if using, baking soda and salt in large bowl. Mix in enough buttermilk to form moist clumps. Gather dough into ball. Turn out onto lightly flour surfaced and knead just until dough holds together, about 1 minute. Shape dough into 6-inch-diameter by 2-inch-high round. Place on prepared baking sheet. Cut 1-inch-deep X across top of bread, extending almost to edges. Bake until bread is golden brown and sounds hollow when tapped on bottom, about 35 minutes. Transfer bread to rack and cool completely.
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Gluten Free Irish Soda Bread ( from Carol Fenster’s excellent book: 100 Best Gluten Free Recipes
1/3 cup Potato Starch
1/3 cup Tapioca Flour
1 Tb Honey or Sugar
2 tsp Xanthan Gum
1 tsp Sea Salt
1 tsp Baking Powder
1/2 tsp Baking Soda
1/2 tsp Unflavored Gelatin
1 Egg, lightly beaten
2/3 cup Buttermilk
1/4 cup Vegetable Oil
2 tsp Whole Caraway Seeds
1 cup Brown Rice Flour
Grease two 5 x 3-inch nonstick pans or a 9 x 5-inch nonstick pan. Preheat oven to 350ºF.
Combine all ingredients in large mixing bowl and mix well with electric mixer on low speed.
Spoon into prepared pan(s), smooth tops with wet spatula and bake small pans for 45-50 minutes, large pan for 50-55 minutes or until top is deeply browned and loaf sounds hard when tapped. Cool completely on wire rack before slicing with serrated or electric knife.
Makes 1 loaf (12 servings).