“In Front Of Every Successful Woman Should Be A Man”

July 21st, 2014

As avid followers of the evolving ideas of traditional marriage, we at The Stepford Wives Organization are constantly scouring the internet and printed book matter for ideas and new information.

We have mentioned the polygamous FLDS (Fundamental Latter Day Saints) group, purely out of interest for their anachronistic ideas of traditional marriage and their views of the man as the head-of-the-household. After all, our favorite “bible” of marriage was written by a Mormon.

Now to be clear, none of us at the organization support polygamy, and we certainly do NOT condone underage marriage or child brides in ANY form. From a purely historical historical however, legal marriageable age in 13th century England was 12 yrs old, without the consent of parents! Up till the 18th century, girls at 13 yrs old married without the consent of their parents. Girls in the American colonies married as young as 9 yrs old. So whether you agree with it or not (we don’t), legal standards are a fluid concept that keeps fluctuating with the times.

Here is a wonderful idea from the FLDS group:

If somebody says, ‘You look pretty today,’ you’re to say, ‘Well, it’s because of my husband,’ or ‘It’s because I have such a wonderful father.’ ”

All glory, she says, must be passed on to the priesthood head, or the male with the highest level of religious authority in a woman’s family.

source: http://www.azcentral.com/news/articles/2008/04/21/20080421polygamydress0421.html#ixzz3878Xs2Zj

We at The Stepford Wives Organization are delighted to give all credit to our men, even in instances where we were responsible for the praise. We see this as an additional dimension in supporting our men and placing them in a positive light. Because at the Stepford Wives Organization, we have a favorite saying: “in front of every successful woman should be a man!.

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Review of Secret Lives of the Stepford Wives on Investigation Discovery

May 10th, 2014

There are two types of people in this world: those who cheer for you and are happy when you’ve finally made it, and those who stew on the sidelines, pray for your failure and dance a schadenfreude jig when you go down in flames. That’s why supermarket checkout counter glossies and tabloids were invented in the first place. Everyday people slog through the day with mediocre lives while celebrities and tv personalities live it up to the hilt, their every move, partner, acquisition, success, appearance are captured, celebrated, photographed, and written up.

But oh what a delight and pure joy when we find their marriages torn asunder, their weight gained, their plastic surgery gone wrong…a little celebratory Roman candle somewhere inside us goes off. At least we can say: we’re not alone in our misery.

And that’s basically the reception the trope of the Stepford Wives have received since the debut of Bryan Forbes’s movie based on Ira Levin’s satire _The Stepford Wives_. “Nobody can possibly be that perfect! Somewhere, somehow, THERE MUST BE A FLAW! THERE MUST BE A DIRTY SECRET!” Otherwise how can we bear to live with our lackluster, ordinary, spotty life?

That’s where Investigation Discovery’s _Secret Lives of the Stepford Wives_ come in. Each 30 minute episode is based on a true crime story of a spotless marriage gone bad. What opens as a picture-perfect marriage of a upwardly mobile couple reveals flaws before the first commercial break. A “Stepford Wife” who is a domestic goddess eventually succumbs to madness, infidelity, financial crisis, stress, and/or an over-controlling husband. One of the two perishes by the end of each installation, living up to the show’s slogan “Perfect Life, Perfect Wife, Perfect Knife.”

Basically it’s a spinoff of Investigation Discovery’s Deadly Women tv series that first aired in 2005 and then resumed in 2008. Think of The Secret Lives of the Stepford Wives as Wives with Knives(another ID series) with cupcakes and sprinkles.

If you have to watch one episode, we recommend _Stay-At-Home Murder_ (Season 1: Episode 3). It has all the classic elements, foibles, and issues of being a true Stepford Wife: a controlling husband, a huge workload at home, keeping up appearances, cleanliness, perfection, control, sex and stress. It is the story of Houston’s hottest homemaker Susan Wright, and how things begin to fall apart. We didn’t find the series entertaining, mostly because we can bear to see things go wrong. A misstep here and there is okay, but we take no schadenfreude pleasure in seeing one of our kind go to pieces.

This doesn’t mean we battle these issues every day, but they do come up. And when they do, how we deal with them and how we make the most of the most of those pressures is why The Stepford Wives Organization and our website and this blog exists!

And yes, the creators of _The Secret Lives of the Stepford Wives_ have contacted us when they were developing the series. We declined, because our husbands said they didn’t want us or our families in the spotlight.

Look. We at the Stepford Wives Organization never said we were perfect. Our husbands write the rules. We merely live by them. It’s a blueprint, a guide. We aim for perfection in homemaking and providing comfort to our men, and when we fall short, we go back the next day and try to give more and get it right. Otherwise, we’re pretty ordinary ourselves.

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Fifty Shades of Grey and So Much More

May 7th, 2014

I was sitting at the local Motor Vehicles Department room waiting for my number to be called. A DMV worker walked by and greeted me.

Then she said “Hey! What are you reading there? Fifty Shades of Grey?”

She gave me a nudge and a salacious wink.

I raised my eyebrows, held up the book cover and smiled. It was Anna Sofia Botkin’s and Elizabeth Botkin’s So Much More.

Read more about the Visionary Daughters here at The Visionary Daughters Website

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Christian Purity Balls are Rorschach Tests

May 6th, 2014
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David Magnusson Purity 2014

Swedish photographer David Mangusson is coming out with a photo book called Purity. In the photo essays, he captures portraits of fathers and daughters about to attend Christian Purity Balls, where daughters promise to stay virgins, and their dads take a vow to protect their chastity. This sounds perfectly normal to us here at the Stepford Wives Organization. We agree with Mr. Magnusson’s statement:

In Purity I wanted to create portraits so beautiful that the girls and their fathers could be proud of the pictures in the same way they are proud of their decisions – while someone from a different background might see an entirely different story in the very same photographs.

David Magnusson Purity 2014

What one chooses to “see” in these pictures says more about the viewer’s state of mind than it does the actual situation at hand. In today’s salacious society and their insatiable appetite for scandal, the tendency is to read imaginary worst-case scenarios into otherwise innocuous images. It’s the same with TLC-based reality shows involving children. Reasonable moms will see Dance Moms as unnecessary pushiness via competitiveness, parents will see adorable kids being maneuvered in Toddlers and Tiaras, and folks who have their minds in the gutter will protest the dangers of all these programs in how they entice child stalkers.

Predictably, bloggers online have exploded with self-righteous irony concerning Chritian purity balls: ( try this link or this one) Check out the comments.

In Christian Purity Balls, we simply see a father-daughter relationship in a correct, albeit anachronistic form.

“It’s the father’s way of saying, ‘until she marries, he will be the (only) man in her life.’” Later on a father says to his daughter: “You are married to the Lord and your father is your boyfriend.”

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We see nothing creepy or “Freudian” about this. Modern liberal society has invested entirely too much of its consciousness in the therapy-mad Jewish culture of psychoanalysis. Forming a lifelong bond with one’s father is natural for us Stepford Women. With purity balls, our husbands inherit not only our covenant to chastity, but also our sound, close relationships with our fathers. If you love your father as the only man in your life; the day you tie the know, you will equally love, praise, and worship the new man in your life.

And that, gets the Stepford seal of approval!

David Magnusson’s Purity Page from his website: David Magnusson: Purity
ABC Nightline Prime: Daughters Commit to Live Pure Lives at ‘Purity Balls’

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Conservative Women Propose A Solution To Income Inequality: Marriage (Time Magazine Article)

April 2nd, 2014

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In the article, Mona Charen says, “Millions of women have taken feminist advice and it’s led to unparalleled misery.”

We couldn’t agree more. Look at the tempestuous married life of the unhappy housewife Betty Friedan of the Feminine Mystique and compare it to happy 67 year marriage of Fascinating Womanhood author Helen Andelin.

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When my sister Carolyn went through all her Women’s Studies courses in college, she took it all in with an open mind and without judgment. Once she came out into the real world and found out that most women couldn’t have it out, it was time to throw in the towel and return to the kitchen. As we always say at the Stepford Wives Organization: “If you can’t do two things in mediocrity, it’s better to do one thing well!

To Read the Time Magazine Article, click here Conservative Women Propose A Solution To Income Inequality

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The Oppressed Majority by Eleonore Pourriat

March 28th, 2014

language and nudity warning for video clip

French actress / filmmaker Eleonore Pourriat makes a misandric 9 minute satire about what the world looks like when gender roles are reversed. No discussion about traditional male / female roles can be addressed without discussing gender studies – a subject in universities once called Women Studies.

Even though Pourriat calls this play of inversion humor and derision, the unfortunate truth is that the modern women and young girls and increasingly moving in the direction of traditional masculine behavior. Of course, the world isn’t going to come to an end if they reach their goals and begin acting and behaving increasingly like brusque, callous men (as if ALL men behaved that way!), but it would take away from the fascination of womanhood and femininity.

So the Stepford Wives Organization sees this video not as much as a social critique, but more a celebration of male behavior. When women behave this way, it’s grotesque and a distortion of nature, that’s why it has always belonged to the realm of manhood. A little sexism – or in our case, a lot of sexism – is good for a Stepford woman’s soul and well-being. Sexism isn’t as bad as feminists make it out to be; it’s an essential, complimentary half to fascinating womanhood. So men should continue doing these things, and we should continue doing what we do best: being women! Because the alternative, would be a world filled with angry, hateful, foul-mouthed wo-men.

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Happy St. Patty’s Day: Guinness Stew Recipe with cabbage & traditional white soda bread ( gluten OR gluten free)

March 17th, 2014

Happy St. Patrick’s Day! You may consider trying out this delicious classic Guinness Beer beef stew. Don’t worry, the alcohol is evaporated and the Guinness stout flavor is mild and faint, but oh what a unique taste it is! Try it with some traditional Irish soda bread (recipe and instructions below) or Gluten Free Irish Soda Bread as a great meal for the last of the cold winter days!

There are a variety of Guinness Stouts. The bottled “Guinness Extra Stout” is the long time import into America, so we like using that. However, the newer canned, draught versions approximate the smoother, draught Guinness Stout you can drink in many an Irish pub in Dublin, just down the road from the Guinness brewery.

Stepford Cooking Tip: Use a leave-in oven thermometer for all your cooking needs. Your oven’s temperature knob is NOT your actual oven temperature!

Beef and Guinness Stew ( from Irish Central).

We recommend adding cabbage to give it the multi-dimensional taste that cabbage so often introduces in stews.

2 tablespoons canola oil, divided
1 tablespoon butter, divided
1/4 cup all-purpose flour
2 pounds boneless chuck roast, trimmed and cut into 1-inch cubes
1 teaspoon salt, divided
5 cups chopped onion (about 3 onions)
1 tablespoon tomato paste
4 cups fat-free, less-sodium beef broth
1 (11.2-ounce) bottle Guinness Draught
1 tablespoon raisins
1 teaspoon caraway seeds
1/2 teaspoon black pepper
1 1/2 cups (1/2-inch-thick) diagonal slices carrot (about 8 ounces)
1 1/2 cups (1/2-inch-thick) diagonal slices parsnip (about 8 ounces)
1 cup (1/2-inch) cubed peeled turnip (about 8 ounces)
2 tablespoons finely chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley
Optional: 1/2 head of cabbage, shredded


1. Heat 1 tablespoon oil in a Dutch oven over medium-high heat. Add 1 1/2 teaspoons butter to pan.
2. Place flour in a shallow dish. Sprinkle beef with 1/2 teaspoon salt; dredge beef in flour.
3. Add half of beef to pan; cook 5 minutes, turning to brown on all sides. Remove beef from pan with a slotted spoon.
4. Repeat procedure with remaining 1 tablespoon oil, 1 1/2 teaspoons butter, and beef.
5. Add onion to pan; cook 5 minutes or until tender, stirring occasionally.
6. Stir in tomato paste; cook 1 minute, stirring frequently.
7. Stir in broth and beer, scraping pan to loosen browned bits. Return meat to pan.
8. Stir in remaining 1/2 teaspoon salt, raisins, caraway seeds, and pepper; bring to a boil.
9. Cover, reduce heat, and simmer 1 hour, stirring occasionally.
10. Uncover and bring to a boil. Cook 50 minutes, stirring occasionally. Add carrot, parsnip, and turnip.
10. Optional: Add cabbage
11. Cover, reduce heat to low, and simmer 30 minutes, stirring occasionally.
12. Uncover and bring to a boil; cook 10 minutes or until vegetables are tender. Sprinkle with parsley.

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White Soda Bread
( Soda Bread recipe from Epicurious )

3 1/2 cups all purpose white flour
2 tablespoons caraway seeds (optional)
1 teaspoon baking-soda
3/4 teaspoon salt
1 1/2 cups (about) buttermilk


Preheat oven to 425°F. Lightly flour baking sheet. Mix flour, caraway seeds, if using, baking soda and salt in large bowl. Mix in enough buttermilk to form moist clumps. Gather dough into ball. Turn out onto lightly flour surfaced and knead just until dough holds together, about 1 minute. Shape dough into 6-inch-diameter by 2-inch-high round. Place on prepared baking sheet. Cut 1-inch-deep X across top of bread, extending almost to edges. Bake until bread is golden brown and sounds hollow when tapped on bottom, about 35 minutes. Transfer bread to rack and cool completely.

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Gluten Free Irish Soda Bread ( from Carol Fenster’s excellent book: 100 Best Gluten Free Recipes

1/3 cup Potato Starch
1/3 cup Tapioca Flour
1 Tb Honey or Sugar
2 tsp Xanthan Gum
1 tsp Sea Salt
1 tsp Baking Powder
1/2 tsp Baking Soda
1/2 tsp Unflavored Gelatin
1 Egg, lightly beaten
2/3 cup Buttermilk
1/4 cup Vegetable Oil
2 tsp Whole Caraway Seeds
1 cup Brown Rice Flour

Grease two 5 x 3-inch nonstick pans or a 9 x 5-inch nonstick pan. Preheat oven to 350ºF.

Combine all ingredients in large mixing bowl and mix well with electric mixer on low speed.

Spoon into prepared pan(s), smooth tops with wet spatula and bake small pans for 45-50 minutes, large pan for 50-55 minutes or until top is deeply browned and loaf sounds hard when tapped. Cool completely on wire rack before slicing with serrated or electric knife.

Makes 1 loaf (12 servings).

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Stepford Wives In The Kitchen Where We Belong ( Miles Aldridge for Agent Provocateur )

February 3rd, 2014

Stepford Wives In the Kitchen www.stepfordwives.org. Photo by Miles Aldridge for Agent Provocateur

Photographer Miles Aldridge has been called upon to create an ad campaign for lingerie brand Agent Provocateur.

Our husbands approve of the photo series, and we agree. There is nothing wrong with dressing in a racy way, as long as you are doing it for your husband and in the privacy of your home. Furthermore, our husbands have always encouraged us to wear garter belts to harken back to better, more traditional days of the 1950s. Click here Stepford Wives Dress Code to read more about it.

We have been told by our men to doll out and get down to our sexy delicates when spoiling and serving them on many occasions, even during meal times or just sitting watching television. It’s a harmless request, and shows our eagerness to be available to them at all times. Of course, we would definitely encourage the use of an apron if you are doing the dishes, and even if we get a spot or two on us, remember: what better way than to please a man visually when we are pleasing him by keeping his home clean?

Stepford Wives in the Kitchen www.stepfordwives.org. Photo by Miles Aldridge for Agent Provocateur

Here is another photo from Miles Aldridge’s portfolio. Notice that his women are portrayed low to the ground, a classic advertising position in portraying fascinating femininity.

Stepford Wives in the Kitchen www.stepfordwives.org

Miles’s work can be viewed at: Miles Aldridge’s website

Agent Provocateur’s amazing lingerie can be viewed at: Agent Provocateur

Visit our parent page: StepfordWives.Org which is also StepfordWife.Com

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WHR (Waist to Hip Ratio) The Stepford Rules of Attraction.

January 15th, 2014

We once saw a tv program that mentioned the ideal Waist to Hip Ratio for a woman that men would find attractive. According to the rules of the Stepford Wives Organization, we girls must do all we possibly can to fit into the exact specifications of what men desire and find attractive. We will provide all the hyperlinks at the end of this article so you can go play around with your measurements and numbers if you chose to.

For now, let’s focus on what that magic Waist-to-Hip Ratio entails.

That magic number is 6.7, according to an article in livescience.com.

So here is the chart of the perfect whr (not to be confused with waist-to-height ratio). Notice the inclusion of a 1959 Barbie doll as a comparison. Even though we know it’s next to impossible to get a Barbie figure, we know getting as close to it as possible is what men would want us to be. Also note the 36-24-36, considered the classic proportion for what is considered a beautiful body.

The Stepford Wives Organization Perfect Woman Measurements Waist-to-Hip Ratio

We didn’t go above 26 inches because that’s already getting into what our guys would consider “overweight.” So ladies and girls, it’s the New Year! Hit the gym, buy a corset, and cut down on the junk food (preferably all three…simultaneously!).

It’s time to get into shape for the pleasure of a man’s gaze!

source: LiveSciene online article about the ideal waist-to-hip ratio

Here is a nifty BMI calculator

And two interesting online 3D interactive models where you can enter your body measurements and get an idea of what it should look like: Optitex 3D Virtual Model and Body Visualizer.

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Secret Lives of Stepford Wives

January 12th, 2014

The tabloid-fueled public always had an insatiable, subconscious thirst to see success stories demolished. It explains why tabloid gossip magazines and tabloid newspapers continue to fly off the shelves at supermarkets. What greater joy and sense of satisfaction can be obtained than the knowledge that just as you have to go home to your boring 3 meal a day kitchen, scrubbing and cleaning, fretting over your husband, that current IT girl actress in Hollywood has divorced her gorgeous husband and their 30 mil Spanish Villa in Brentwood is being auctioned off? It gives us comfort – no matter how superficial- to know we are not suffering alone.

If you look at reality TV, the same pattern emerges. In the latter 20th century, beginning with Harrison Ford’s movie Witness, the Amish have been looked upon as the moral compass of all that is virtuous, practical, simple, and family-oriented. Tabloid-like reality TV immediately rose to the call to take down that image. After all, if modern America is unable to sustain a virtuous, practical, simple, and family-oriented household, we’ll be damned if someone in our backyard can! Henceforth Breaking Amish, Amish Mafia, The Hutterites…all depicting Amish people in a negative light of conflict and decline. We dust our hands; our job is done.

We had received many requests for interviews ranging from tv talk shows to morning news shows and reality tv to have our lives examined. We were contacted by the producers of Investigation Discovery to be interviewed and have our stories told in their upcoming series The Secret Lives of Stepford Wives. Our husbands said no, so we said no. And that was a good call. Just look at absolutely caustic – probably fake, like most reality tv scripts – stories they eventually came out with:

Playdate with Death – When suburban homemaker Candy Montgomery becomes bored by her cookie-cutter routine, she finds herself an exciting new hobby: a salacious affair with a church friend’s husband. From secret hotel rendezvous to church choir run-ins, this affair is exactly what Montgomery needs to spice up her blasé day. However, even the best-laid plans can go awry. When her lover’s guilt threatens to end the relationship, Montgomery’s seamless life starts coming undone and an unexpected confrontation ends in axe murder.

Third Time’s the Charm – Yvonne Stern is a domestic goddess, perfectly capable of balancing the needs of her family and her role as queen of the Houston social scene. When she isn’t redecorating their million-dollar mansion or shopping at high-end boutiques, she’s on the soccer field cheering on her young children. But in a world of high society affairs, it’s not all glamour and air kisses. Stern’s husband, a prominent lawyer, has developed a deadly conflict of interest that will leave her fighting for her life.

American Nightmare – At 23, Rose Keil’s life changes forever when she answers a mysterious ad in her local German newspaper. She is jetted off to Palm Beach to live in the lap of luxury with her new beau, real estate magnate Fred Keller, who is 35 years her senior. They soon marry and welcome a beautiful baby boy. But, this May-December romance goes from hot to cold when Keil can no longer stand her husband’s controlling ways. She wants a divorce and a piece of his $100 million fortune. Eleven days after their divorce is finalized, a business meeting turns fatal when three people are shot, leaving one dead. Is the domineering husband or the strong-willed wife at fault?

Milkshake Murder – Nancy Kissel lives a charmed life. From her high-fashion look to her sprawling $20,000-a-month Hong Kong apartment, this ex-pat wife projects the image of perfection. But even when you think you have it all, it turns out something’s always missing. As her workaholic husband makes millions, Kissel buries her loneliness in high-end retail and $5,000 haircuts. When an Asian epidemic temporarily forces her and the children back to the states, she decides to renovate her luxury Vermont ski home with an upgrade that includes an affair with the TV repairman. When a private investigator begins unraveling this housewife’s dirty little secrets, someone winds up dead.

The Mad Scientist – Michelle Rivera Nyce is a beautiful girl from a small village in the Philippines whose life changes forever when she signs up for an American pen pal service. She finds love with a shy scientist who sweeps her off her feet to the suburbs. When her hubby creates a new potion and strikes it rich, Nyce’s life goes from modest to millions. But despite the mansion, fancy cars, and closet full of clothes, she grows restless and begins a secret affair with her gardener. Torn between two loves, can Nyce have it all or will the truth destroy her?

Upper East Side Shootout – Fabulously wealthy housewife Barbara Kogan is the toast of New York society. With her husband of 25 years, retail and real estate mogul husband George Kogan, she enjoys an extravagant life with an unlimited expense account. But George is keeping a dangerous secret from his wife – one that threatens their life together. Barbara’s lavish world is pulled out from under her when George dumps her for a younger woman. After a two-year-long bitter divorce, one of the Kogans is shot dead, and the ensuing 18-year manhunt uncovers a shocking surprise.

source: Investigation Discovery Looks At Sundown Towns And ‘Secret Lives Of Stepford Wives’

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